Immigrants and refugees are fucked here in this part of the world in any possible way, almost every day. Marriage is one of the most challenging efforts they make in their bumpy path of their life. Unlike Canadians, most of the foreigners, for example Iranians, Punjabis, Chinese, Koreans, Afghans and others would like to marry and have their own family.
You probably have heard lots of stories of fallen marriages and the girls who come to this part of the world as a spouse and leave their husband shortly after and go their own way. This one, the story of S. J.’s marriage is quite interesting and worth reading:
First of all I would like to introduce S. J. to you: He’s a nice guy in his mid 40s. I met with him first time in front of the Embassy of Canada in Tehran and that was probably 8 years ago. I noticed his accent and I asked how everything was in Esfahan. He thought at the beginning that he knew me from somewhere and surprisingly he gave me his number which is way far from the people of Esfahan, they are usually not that friendly! Then years passed and in 2003 I saw him using a spade on one of A. J.’s job-sites. He’s a graduate of Gardening or some program like that. Then again years passed and last year I asked A. J. about him. I was told by him that S. J. is in the school and also married, waiting for two exciting things: Graduation and stepping in the world of employment and then marriage and enjoying a family. That was good news until when I got back to Canada and was sitting with A. J. in his office. He made a phone call to him and this is the body of the story now, if you consider what I just said the introduction:
The girl once calls S. J. and says that she needs money for her goodbye party, some $5000! He asks if she had received her visa. The answer is No. He asks why she needs that much and the answer is obviously the nature of the things she would do, a party once in a life. S. J. explains his financial situation and insists that she should understand. Then she adds that she might not live with him when she’s there. She says that she would live as a roommate with him for a while and then decides what to do! S. J. is taken aback and embarrassed while at the same time still knows nothing about her visa issuance. He calls the embassy and tells them that he is no more his sponsor. They tell him that she had already received her visa! But they add that they would flag her visa so she won't be able to fly to Canada. She lands in Vancouver International Airport in a few days despite that but CIC guys in there take her passport and tell her that she has a period of 3 months, I guess, to stay but I don’t know why they let her in! She stays with a relative whom is not known to S. J. and is in touch with him through the phone. S. J.’s friends warn him of going to that place because of possible charges which could be laid against him, for example sexual assault, harassment or rape! He stays away from her until the day she asks him to visit her in a park. They get together and in the meeting the girl bursts in to tears and says that she’s misled, not clear by whom! Yes a 36 year old woman is tricked and has done what you just read to an innocent man who’s officially her husband!
Anyway S. J. suggests that he would move out of Canada and would live with her for as long as necessary and let her decide if she would like to live with him but she rejects. Again, surprisingly the girl who has already consulted an immigration lawyer and has been told that claiming as a refugee is the only way that she would be able to stay in Canada, leaves the country! Thousands of people come to this country every year and make up stories for CIC and stay. I just don’t understand why she didn’t!
Anyways she returns to Iran and gets in touch with the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and Ministry of Justice! She claims that she was taken to a S. J.’s friend house during her visit to Canada and asks for her daily expenses which must be paid by S. J. as a husband, a matrimony instalment. She also asks for half of her marriage deposit, some stupid kind of money that women are entitled to receive as soon as they are married in some traditional cultures, some $200,000!
S. J. now is applying for a line of credit to be able to pay his debt off! I heard this part when I was driving back from Squmish last Sun. A. J. was sitting beside me on the phone. I told A. J. to tell him to hire a lawyer so he can track down what they do which makes him ready and prepare to react upon.
So that was quite a story. I will follow up and post if anything new comes up.
You probably have heard lots of stories of fallen marriages and the girls who come to this part of the world as a spouse and leave their husband shortly after and go their own way. This one, the story of S. J.’s marriage is quite interesting and worth reading:
First of all I would like to introduce S. J. to you: He’s a nice guy in his mid 40s. I met with him first time in front of the Embassy of Canada in Tehran and that was probably 8 years ago. I noticed his accent and I asked how everything was in Esfahan. He thought at the beginning that he knew me from somewhere and surprisingly he gave me his number which is way far from the people of Esfahan, they are usually not that friendly! Then years passed and in 2003 I saw him using a spade on one of A. J.’s job-sites. He’s a graduate of Gardening or some program like that. Then again years passed and last year I asked A. J. about him. I was told by him that S. J. is in the school and also married, waiting for two exciting things: Graduation and stepping in the world of employment and then marriage and enjoying a family. That was good news until when I got back to Canada and was sitting with A. J. in his office. He made a phone call to him and this is the body of the story now, if you consider what I just said the introduction:
The girl once calls S. J. and says that she needs money for her goodbye party, some $5000! He asks if she had received her visa. The answer is No. He asks why she needs that much and the answer is obviously the nature of the things she would do, a party once in a life. S. J. explains his financial situation and insists that she should understand. Then she adds that she might not live with him when she’s there. She says that she would live as a roommate with him for a while and then decides what to do! S. J. is taken aback and embarrassed while at the same time still knows nothing about her visa issuance. He calls the embassy and tells them that he is no more his sponsor. They tell him that she had already received her visa! But they add that they would flag her visa so she won't be able to fly to Canada. She lands in Vancouver International Airport in a few days despite that but CIC guys in there take her passport and tell her that she has a period of 3 months, I guess, to stay but I don’t know why they let her in! She stays with a relative whom is not known to S. J. and is in touch with him through the phone. S. J.’s friends warn him of going to that place because of possible charges which could be laid against him, for example sexual assault, harassment or rape! He stays away from her until the day she asks him to visit her in a park. They get together and in the meeting the girl bursts in to tears and says that she’s misled, not clear by whom! Yes a 36 year old woman is tricked and has done what you just read to an innocent man who’s officially her husband!
Anyway S. J. suggests that he would move out of Canada and would live with her for as long as necessary and let her decide if she would like to live with him but she rejects. Again, surprisingly the girl who has already consulted an immigration lawyer and has been told that claiming as a refugee is the only way that she would be able to stay in Canada, leaves the country! Thousands of people come to this country every year and make up stories for CIC and stay. I just don’t understand why she didn’t!
Anyways she returns to Iran and gets in touch with the Ministry of Foreign Affairs and Ministry of Justice! She claims that she was taken to a S. J.’s friend house during her visit to Canada and asks for her daily expenses which must be paid by S. J. as a husband, a matrimony instalment. She also asks for half of her marriage deposit, some stupid kind of money that women are entitled to receive as soon as they are married in some traditional cultures, some $200,000!
S. J. now is applying for a line of credit to be able to pay his debt off! I heard this part when I was driving back from Squmish last Sun. A. J. was sitting beside me on the phone. I told A. J. to tell him to hire a lawyer so he can track down what they do which makes him ready and prepare to react upon.
So that was quite a story. I will follow up and post if anything new comes up.
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